A Black Female Medical Student

Archive for August 2008

Posted on: August 17, 2008

So there is this guy in my class and my roomie thinks he likes me. At first I couldn’t stand him…. he was just really weird and rude it seemed, but I think maybe he just felt awkward around me.

Anyhoo, so Friday night we went to this party at a friend’s house and I met him there, and we actually had a decent conversation. We went home, and apparently he went and looked my number up in our orientation packet, and started texting me. I’m a friendly chick so I texted back… anyways fast forward to the next day when we’re all sitting around studying in the BSLC and he randomly texts me and my roomie to ask if we want some coffee. I assumed that he wanted us to hit him back, but my roomie cleared that up for me.

This is not something that guys from HU do, so I was impressed and honestly quite flattered. Especialy since he hadn’t really struck me as such a friendly guy. Then about 5 of us went out to dinner, it was me, my roomie, dude, and 2 other guys. When we were done eating, I was about to call the waitress for separate checks, and then another guy from the group put some money down and motioned for the rest of the guys to cover the tab. And they did. It was sweet. It was gentlemanly. And somehow very sexy.

They started making jokes about how we ate for free the entire day, and it was true…. I had not expected that, especially since we’re all just a bunch of broke medical students, but honestly their generosity really impressed me.

So now, this guy who I had blatantly, expressly, and adamantly absolutely refused to consider as any kind of romantic interest is…. a possibility. It wasn’t just some coffee and a some free food. It also had something to do with, an acknowledgement and acceptance of their masculinity and what it entails. It also brought out his thoughtfulness, which is a very sweet and endearing quality for a man to have…. this I know. Not to mention, his generosity…. it may not seem that much to you, but as broke medical students living on a stringent budget, a little goes a long way.

Anyways, that, dear men, is how you begin to win a girl over… masculinity, generousity, and thoughtfulness. Now, I’m not won over yet…. not nearly so. But I’m open to thought of it…. which is a lot more than I was yesterday.


Posted on: August 16, 2008

So…. I’m just about to pack it in after a long night of studying… not. Lol… one of the med students had a party (for no reason apparently) and my roomie and I decided to go. It was fun… not too crazy. There were so first years who stripped down to their boxers and stood outside for awhile, but other than that it was pretty tame.

I must say my experience here is not what I expected me school to be like at all. I am enjoying it though. I know I sound like a tour guide, but my school is pretty cool. There are leadership and volunteer opportunities all over the place and the whole pass/ fail system means that its a pretty chill environment. Only about 1/2 of the class indulges in the whole clubbing and partying thing though. The other 1/2 doesn’t… not really.

There is this girl in my class who is completely socially inept. I mean, I have never seen anything like it before. I mean, its okay to be socially inept, but she is, to the point where its becomes embarrassing and offensive to others. And the crazy thing is, she’s MARRIED! To someone who is at least as, or more socially inept than her.

Lol…. I can’t imagine what their dating/ courtship process must have been like. Or what their kids will turn out like. I bet their kids come out gorgeous and are of the whole cheerleader/ jock variety.

I saw some more white boy homoerotic behavior today. Besides the 2 guys just standing there chilling outside in their boxers (I believe I also saw the hug at one moment, can’t be too sure though… somebody else was in the way), I saw this dude smack another dude in ass as he walked by, for no apparent reason! (Gasp….)

Toto, I don’t think we’re in Hampton anymore… cuz that isht would NOT fly!!!!

Lets run down the list:

Things that I have seen in medical school, that I have not or would not ever see in Hampton:

1. 2 dudes hugging each other while stripped down to their boxers outside late at night

2. A dude smack another dudes ass and nothing happen

3. A bottle of Skyy vodka sit on the kitchen table untouched for a full 2 hours

4. A party with no music…. not one bit

5. Dudes do more in the club than just stand with their hands in their pockets and pelvic areas slightly pointed out waiting for some booty to rub past

6. Beer, beer, BEER.

I have soooo been meaning to update. And I guess it hasn’t been THAT long since my last post, but let me tell you. Medical school is like a non-stop…. obligation!

I just started classes last Monday, and my first test is this Tuesday. In addition to studying (and this is a real test, not a “let’s ease you in/ give you some time to adjust” type test), we have orientation meetings, community service obligations, K.I.T. with friends and family and feed myself with some kind of regularity. I have yet to completely move into my house (my roommate and kinda just camp out on the living floor to study/ watch TV lol). Then you have to be social, as you are constantly making first impressions and you don’t want negative ones to follow you for the next 4 years. I still don’t know HOW I’m going to incorporate cooking into my daily routine as I’m in class from 8-5 every day (yes, antiquated… I know).

But really though, med school has been fun. I love my medical school class for the most part, and as I said in my last post, Chicago is an amazing city. I found this jerk chicken place down the street that I love, and on Saturday I went to a birthday party for one of the 2nd year students at this club downtown. Let me tell you, that night was just so crazy/fun/ funny on so many different levels.

I graduated from an HBCU so I am not too experience with partying with white ppl. Neither is my roommate, but primarily because she moved Oklahoma from Nigeria when she was 17 and apparently there’s not much clubbing going on there lol. Anyways, white people love to party. And they have no shame in dancing even though, quite simply, they can’t lol. Also, they can get away with so much stuff that black people can’t…. like, you know how black guys will barely move their feet or their body while dancing. Why were all these white boys wiggling their hips, waving their hands, and (lmao) practically break dancing???? I was DYING.

But it was a good time.

I have to pack it in and get some sleep…. I have class at 9am tomorrow morning, and I still have a bunch of studying to do so tomorrow’s gonna be another long nite.

God bless!!!!

Posted on: August 6, 2008

Insomnia sucks. *cries*

And I am soooo tired…. however, I can’t sleep. I had a nice (although long) day today. I got walk around my new neighborhood for a bit and I even stopped in the grocery store and bought some grapes. Grapes are great at cheering people up…. usually. I had never had any person refuse an offer of grapes until today. I offered them to my roommate and she refused…. said it was bad for her voice.

So weird…. my throat is slight sore now. Huh…..

But seriously, try offering grapes to a person who is unhappy about something…. it generally will work in your favor.

Tomorrow I will begin my third day of medical school classes. As nerdy as it sounds, I kinda love it thus far, lol. I live in Barack Obama’s neighborhood, Chicagoans are (for the most part) intelligent and friendly, and THERE IS GREAT SHOPPING HERE. Seriously, I cannot wait until this wknd when I can go downtown and spend more money. ***preens… Bill Cosby style***

I am so excited.

I have yet to try out the nightlife here, but I heard its pretty nice. I just realized that my college nightlife was kinda boring. I mean, I definitely had fun, but we didn’t really do anything particularly mind-blowing…. just floated between one another’s houses and drank.

Well, the alcohol made it seem fun.

I don’t know about going out this weekend like that, I have a test next Tuesday, and failing is not an option. We’ll see how much peer pressure I will have to withstand. Hopefully, its a lot and I will have to succumb lol….



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